Note To Self...

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"For small creatures such as we, 

the vastness is bearable only through love..."

- Carl Sagan

Getting a J-O-B: Putting Your Best Foot Forward

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"Be a yardstick of quality.  Some people aren't used to an environment where excellence is expected." - Steve Jobs

Hello there, friends!
 
It's no big surprise when we hear that people are having a difficult time finding work these days. Fortunately, I've been able to find a career that I'm totally in love with AND utilizes the skills that I've picked up along the way.  I'll be the first to admit - it wasn't easy!  I had a string of totally unrelated jobs before I found one that I actually like - and I couldn't do it without tons of hard work, dedication, and a great support system.
 
One of these random stints included a position in human resources.  The tidbits of information below are based on my past experience in this field - some of which I think aren't really considered by many job seekers. I'm hoping that it will help those of you that are feeling a little down 'n out about your current job search:

• Research the company that you are interested in.  We are in the age of technology - use it!  Look up the company on the web and peruse their site.   What is their mission statement or policies?  Who is their CEO?  What have they accomplished in the past, and most recently?  Learn about them from the inside-out!  It seems pretty annoying, but it definitely helps in writing your resume/cover letter and answering those tricky questions during an interview.    
• Have a well-written and professional resume.  This one seems like a given, but you'd be surprised at some of the resumes that people send!  If you're not a great writer, it may help to hire some outside help or ask a smart friend or relative.  Yes, I said smart!  Someone who is articulate and can write comprehensive sentences.  If you're writing your own resume, ask this smart friend/relative to proofread it for spelling and grammar errors.  Readers, please:  DO NOT skip this step.  I repeat:  DO NOT SKIP PROOFREADING.  Asking someone else will help you see the errors that you probably missed. I once saw a resume that he/she wanted a job in "pubic relations."  Another addressed a cover letter to "Mr. Brain Frieze."  I mean, really?  Needless to say, these minor (yet major) errors caused these applicants to be filed under "No Thanks!"  Why would an employer hire someone who didn't even care to spell a name correctly?  Always proofread!  (Always!)  
• Dress for success - EVERY DAY.  Every day!  You don't have to wear a suit and tie on your daily coffee or grocery run, but try to look your best at all times.  If you're currently out of work or looking to change careers, you never know who you will run into that can lead you to a fantastic opportunity.   It might also help to wear clothes that reflects the job that you're pursuing.  An added bonus:  it'll make you feel great! Looking like you just rolled out of bed with last night's dinner on your mouth or clothes will not attract potential employers.  
• Be prepared for interviews.  Looking your best is especially important for interviews. Keep your clothes conservative, make sure they're ironed, and each piece matches.  Please stay away from bright or neon colors and super revealing short skirts or shirts.  Guys, wear a tie!  Ladies, avoid open-toed shoes.  It's actually against some dress code policies, especially at huge corporations or agencies.  Also, be comfortable!  When buying interview clothes, try them on, walk in them, sit down in the dressing room and assess if this is appropriate for an interview.  It sounds silly, but the ability to move your arms or sitting without revealing the top of your tube socks will prevent sudden embarrassment, believe me.  If you can, purchase a portfolio or folder to put your paperwork (such as a hard copy of your resume) and bring working pens.  Nothing is worse than fumbling through a unorganized bag during an interview -and/or- pulling a copy of your folded resume out of your back pocket!  Just don't do it to yourself.  (P.S. - Invest in some dress socks...)
•  Have references available.  Friends are great as personal references, but having professional references (namely former employers and/or colleagues) are extremely important.  Always ask someone before you use them as a reference - this way, they'd be on the look out for a phone call or e-mail.  Also, it's just the right thing to do!  Make sure you have their contact information (job title included) before you send your resume to a potential employer or prior to an interview.  If requested, you'll have their information readily available.  (Students: Don't hesitate to ask former/current professors!)
• Stand out.  While you're looking for work or that new career, build your resume!  You can volunteer at a company that is relative to your field or get a certificate that would improve your skills. You are up against many, many, MANY people out there - being a memorable applicant is key.  If you can swing it, go back to school!  Why not?  Life is too short to settle.    
• Don't lose hope.  I know that looking for a job can be a daunting and tedious process.  If six or more months have gone by and you haven't landed a gig, it may help to hire a headhunter, re-work your resume or consider a new plan of action.   Think positive, act positive and surround yourself with encouraging people.  Something will come up!  Even if it's not your first choice, it may lead you to somewhere great, or, at the very least, be a temporary fix while you still look for that perfect job of yours. 

xoxo andrea

Perfecting the Perfect Relationship...

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"A woman in love can't be reasonable - or she probably wouldn't be in love..."
- Mae West 

Being home for the last three days, I've been consumed by news and updates of Superstorm Sandy.  Don't forget that there are many, many ways to help!

While trying to get over a bad case of cabin fever, I started to think about relationships.  Now I'm no expert, but I've learned a few things along the way.  In fact, I'm still learning!  If you're finding yourself in a rut, have no fear!  I think I've formulated the recipe for the perfect relationship!  (Ladies, this one's for you...)

And awayyy we go!

• First and foremost, don't call him.  Don't have him call you.  Keep your calls/texts to a minimal.  Hey, you know what?  Don't talk at all.  Just plan a designated time and place for you to meet - maybe once a week or every two weeks.  Mail a letter.  Try to think of a smoke signal system so you can give him as much free time to watch bad television, scratch himself, and do whatever strange behaviors guys like to do.
• Plan every date.  Yes, ladies, remember that I'm talking to you!  Our guys have way too much on their plates to plan anything for us girls.  Why should they spend any time being romantic?  They deserve love, too!  Buy him something he's always wanted while you're at it!  It is 2012 - expecting him to plan a date is plain ol' sexist!
• Always, always, always go to him.  Is that him standing at your doorstep??  With flowers?!?  Is he waiting for you after work??  UGH.  As previously said, your boy is probably so busy that he can't possibly find time to work around his schedule to meet you anywhere.  Don't expect any surprises, either.  After all, who likes to be surprised by the person they love?!?  ICK!!!  What you have going on in your life is not as important.  C'mon girl!
•  Watch everything he likes.  Shark Week, 12-inning baseball games, National Geographic, action or horror movies...you name it!  Not only will you avoid pointless arguments (he'll win anyway) and spend much more time together, but you'll get an education to boot!  Score!
• Whatever you do, agree with him.  This goes for your feelings, weekend plans, trips in the future, your view on politics, your career, his career, marriage, whether he wants kids or not, whatever.  He's always right.  Even when he's wrong...he's always right.  Got it?  Good.
• Never, EVER argue - even when you're hurt by the same things over and over again.  Listen.  Don't express your feelings.  In fact, don't even have them.  Silly things like making you feel like a priority is not what he signed up for.  And WHY do you want to be a priority, missy??  You know as well I do that certain things come first, dear.  Even if you understand his priorities, don't expect any special treatment  - even in the most miniscule way!  Keep that nagging mouth shut, smile and nod.  Your new mantra:  "All is good in the mofo'n hood!"
• Don't expect commitment.  Now, if you've done everything right, you're probably on the serious road to commitment, living happily ever after!  If not, don't expect your guy to commit to you in any way.  He'll be fully justified in stringing you along - he didn't ask you to do any of the above in the first place!  DUH!  I've said it before and I'll say it again:  C'MON, GIRL!
• Last but not least,  DO NOT FOLLOW any of the above.  The best kind of  relationship is fair, balanced and FULL of mutual love and affection.  Of course you'll have some arguments along the way, but the right guy will make you feel like a million bucks regardless of your flaws (hopefully, you've accepted his as well!  Okay, worked with them... =)  And if that's too "fairytale" for him, remember that you deserve to be loved...completely.

xoxo andrea

Hurricane Sandy

 Robert Moses Beach, Long Island, New York  (photo taken by A. Singh)

Above:  One of my favorite views from Robert Moses State Park, destroyed by Superstorm Sandy on Long Island.

Hey there, everyone...

It's been a long time since my last post, but I thought that I owe a few words to my beloved city and home...

Hurricane Sandy really wreaked havoc in NY, NJ, CT and its surrounding areas.  The Jersey Shore, several beaches, and hundreds of homes have been demolished.  When I look at the reports, like many, I just can't believe what I'm seeing and the number of devastating stories that I'm hearing.  

Here's a wonderful article from The Huffington Post that offers ways we can help the victims of Superstorm Sandy, which includes information about the American Red Cross (scroll down to "How to Help,")  The New York Blood Center, and other agencies that are offering assistance during this time.

We have proven our resilience in the past and I'm really optimistic that we will be able to bounce back.  The very least we can do is to keep the people that have been affected by this tragedy in our thoughts, hoping they'll receive the help that they need very, very soon...

xoxo andrea

Note To Self...

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"Only hang around people that are positive and
make you feel good.  Anybody who doesn’t make you feel good, kick them to the curb. And the earlier you start in your life the better... The minute anybody makes you feel weird and non-included or not supported, you know,  either beat it or tell them to beat it..." - Amy Poehler

How To Be a Jerk

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The hot and humid summer heat we've gotten here in NYC has kept me indoors for the most part.  Now that the weather is cooling up a bit (a frigid 85º), I've been out 'n about, enjoying what's left of my vacation.

I hate being indoors, but I can see how being a literal hermit has its advantages - you aren't exposed to the jerks of our world.  And believe me, they're everywhere. Here are some ways on how you can be one of them (just in case you're interested...)

Swiping a parking spot from someone else:  You see the car ahead of you has their signals on, but you can clearly take the spot - and you do.  You either spend way too much time arguing about it with the other driver or you walk off feeling like the king of the world.  Well, you are the king - of jerks!  Keep this in mind the next time you try to steal a parking spot: that other driver not only knows where you parked, but quite possibly the make/model of your car and your license plate number.   Nothing is worse that car-ma, my friend.  Plus, people can be crazy.  I mean.  Really crazy.

Being late - especially at the movies:  Lateness is as absolute pet peeve of mine.  Nothing turns me into the Incredible Hulk faster.  But latecomers at the movies (or any scheduled event, for that matter) are really inexcusable.  First of all, you knew what time the movie started and you were late anyway.  Now, you're:  1) blocking my view because you need to find a seat in a pitch-dark theater 2)  chewing your annoyingly crunchy popcorn and 3)  opening your loud candy packaging.  Plus, you're talking about how funny it is that you're tripping over people who cared enough to be on time.  Oh and did you know that there's a butt and/or crotch parade in my face?  Ta-da!  You're an official jerk.

Jaywalking:  I'll admit, I was a jaywalker before I became an avid driver.  Now that I drive more often than not, I see how jaywalking is the worst decision a pedestrian can make.  Why?   Hmmmm...how's about...DEATH?!?  Why would you jaywalk when the crosswalk is a mere 2 feet in front of you?  Most jaywalkers don't even look - they just walk/run/walk-run across the busiest streets known to man as though they're made of steel and can't be hurt by a moving vehicle.  Newsflash:  You may not be made of steel...but you certainly are a jerk!

Not obeying traffic laws/street signs:  In the similar tune of jaywalking - what is it with some drivers...and bicyclists?? I can't tell you how many times I've seen someone in a car or bike arrogantly sail through a red light like it's nobody's business.  Guess what - unless your mode of transportation has some sort of invisible forcefield, you're putting yourself (and others) in danger.  Ditto for not using your signal and wearing all black at night while on a bike.  Take a sec and turn around - this shaking middle finger is all yours, you jerk!

Talking over someone in a conversation/Changing the subject:  Someone is talking about drama at work and is obviously very upset.  They need to vent to you and/or a group of friends.  Somewhere in between "That crazy b*tch!" and "Eff that!"  you decide to loudly chime in - about the latest political scandal - or worse - your wonderful colleagues and how lucky you are to have the best boss ever.  Do yourself a favor:  Look in the mirror and tell that story - because you should spend time with like-minded jerks like yourself.

Not leaving your waiter a tip:  Yes, the waiter smirked a little when he/she took your order.  Yes, you didn't know tonight's specials.  Yes, you waited almost 30 minutes for your food.  All justifiable reasons to be miffed.  But does that mean you shouldn't leave a tip at the end of a meal that you fully consumed?  Pause for a second: Imagine what a waiter goes through on daily basis - working for less than desirable wage, while maintaining a perfect smile throughout your complicated burger order.  Oh, and having an amazing memory to boot after barely making it through a 12-hour shift.   Remember that for the most part, waiters do not control the kitchen staff and vice versa.  I wholeheartedly agree that there are some reasons when you shouldn't  -  maybe your waiter told a racist joke that went too far or yelled at your kid (perhaps while being racist).  Unless your reasons are super extreme, I think not leaving a tip is a jerk move. (P.S. - I wouldn't show up to this restaurant again if I were you...just sayin'...)

Cutting in line/Pushing:  Whether at a crowded store, the long line to merge off/onto a highway exit, or getting a seat on the subway, cutting in line and/or pushing is simply saying, "My needs are more important than yours."  Oh yeah, and, "I'm a complete and utter jerk."

I'm sure tons more can be added here...

Now, I'm definitely not perfect, but I do think a little consideration goes a long, long way.  You may want to try it next time you're contemplating entering the realm of jerkdom.

xoxo andrea

Coffee Shop Follies

Surprisingly, there’s a ton of people in the coffee shop today. The weather is so beautiful that I was expecting to grab a seat immediately, but there’s a study group over on the right (isn’t it summer?), a woman and her friend having a very in-depth conversation on the left (by “in-depth” I mean “arguing”), and a couple of my people (those with laptops) scattered throughout the café. Iced green tea in hand, I try to look nonchalant as I keep my eye out for anyone that makes the slightest indication that he/she/they/it is leaving.

Books closing, computers folding shut, the sound of a bag’s zipper ring melodically in my ears as I make my way towards the center of the floor. “Yes!” I say to myself. Sure, my computer bag hits a few heads along my journey. Yeah, my purse, being lifted in the air out of concern for other innocent bystanders, (by"sitters?") wobbles uncontrollably.  So what if the lid of my cold beverage  is about to pop off because of my eager (and pressure-filled) grasp?  I’m getting a seat! Suckers.

The sound of my bags hitting the side of my body (and the people around me) serve as the soundtrack of my travels. I can already see myself typing furiously on my laptop, sipping my drink, getting things done as I should. Tomorrow I can relax…Saturday, I’ll get a little more done…Sunday I’ll relax a bit more…Monday, I’ll come here again…maybe I’ll even sit in the same seat! I quietly chuckle to myself. The sun’s shining…the sky is blue. It’s going to be a great day, indeed.

Wait.

“Can you watch my stuff? I’ll be right back.” What?  You mean...the orange table with its magnificent shine…the comfortable, cushioned seat...the perfectly placed electrical outlet...why aren't you leaving?!?  This table and I...we were obviously made for each other.  Alas, my words fall on deaf ears. “Sure," I say begrudgingly.  

She returns and smiles, “Thanks!” For nothing! I say to myself. I heave my bags back on my shoulders like a camel, with a very fake and tight-lipped smile.

I return to my post. Others are scoping out the joint. My heart is beating out of my chest.  Why I am so nervous?  Oh - through squinted eyes, I look at a couple in the far right. They are standing next to TWO tables. The nerve! 

My refreshing beverage now becomes a sudden annoyance. I need to throw it out, but I’m afraid that one false move will cause me to lose this game in this pathetic table race.

I see movement. Off in the distance, I see Enemy #1 making his way over to my intended target. He has no bags, no drink, no jacket….he's not even here to work! I stuff the plastic cup into my purse, and as it makes a crackling sound, I start to sprint. Well, as much as you can sprint with a backpack, a shoulder bag, a laptop and an open beverage. The melted ice snakes through my purse. I ignore it, of course.

I’m (half) flying through the aisle and do a side-move with the precision of a trained athlete. Everything is flying in different directions. Bags 1-3, arms, legs, hair... People are looking at me in sheer awe….or disbelief…I don’t know the difference. They’ve probably never seen moves like this before, I think. I shout a million “Excuse me’s.” Why, I don’t know. In fact, I don’t understand why saying “excuse me” makes anything better…whether it be an obnoxious burp or flatulence. In any case, Enemy #1 gives his accomplice a signal. I turn around in slow motion…as I look back….

It’s too late. Enemy #1 has already staked his claim at the table that could’ve been mine. All mine. Enemy #2 gives a thumbs-up. Lame.  Who even does that anymore, I think….angrily.

A woman in an official-looking trench coat whizzes by me, knocking my bag to the floor. No apology. I want to give her the finger, but I think that’s only cool when you’re driving.

“If you’re not going to stay, then you should leave the café,” a woman in a green smock and duck-billed visor tells me. I have no words. Of course I want to stay!  But there are no tables, lady!  The odds were certainly against me.

I’m raising the white flag. It’s only been twenty minutes, but my feet are aching, my bags slipping off of my shoulders, and there’s a broken, plastic and leaky cup in one of them. I begin to leave when the most magical voice I’ve ever heard rises up and over the rapid chatter of those around me:

“Hey…do you want to sit here?”

Calm as ever, I reply, “Sure.” My bags drop to the floor in relief.

As I look around eagerly, I wonder if anyone else notices my accomplishment. Smiling from ear to ear, I give myself a mental high-five.

Note To Self...

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"I hate cynicism -- it's my least favorite quality and it doesn't lead anywhere. Nobody in life gets exactly what they thought they were going to get. But if you work really hard and you're kind, 

amazing things will happen..."  - Conan O'Brien

"Today I Don't Feel Like Doing Anything..."

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"...I just wanna lay in my bed...Don't feel like picking up my phone, so leave a message at the tone...'Cause today I swear I'm not doing anything...Nothing at all..." 

I think the above song by Bruno Mars (aptly titled "The Lazy Song") became so popular because it's exactly what we feel like doing sometimes:  Absolutely nothing!  Just stay in our PJ's all day, watch bad television, order take-out, peruse the Internet for hours, then fall asleep in a blissful, lazy haze.

Now, we do need those days from time to time - especially in our busy lives.  However, when those days become habitual, you can feel like you're stuck in a monotonous, never-ending rut.  Here's a few ways that I try to snap myself out of it:

Reverse the order of AM rituals:  Everyone has their own routine in the morning.  I usually brush my teeth, eat breakfast, and then start getting ready for the day.  Now, I find that I'm much more motivated by taking a shower and getting ready first, followed by breakfast.  Mixing up your routine just adds some variety to an otherwise mundane schedule. Bonus Tip:  Try to wake up as early as possible - you'll get so much more from the day!   This is a real challenge for me when I'm off from work, but I do find that gradually pushing my alarm clock's time back by an hour helps in rising a bit earlier than usual without feeling like I've been jolted out of bed.

Turn OFF the computer and/or television:  A bit ironic, I know, but the age of the Internet has imprisoned us - and we do it to ourselves.  Nowadays, we don't have to leave our homes for groceries, entertainment, or even sending mail. Powering down your computer will help you realize that there is life beyond cyberspace.  It may help to time yourself and/or keeping your laptop/computer out of your bedroom.  Ditto for television. Bonus Tip:  Notice - "power down" NOT "log off."  Turning your computer completely off will avoid  getting back on again.  Television a problem?  Put the remote somewhere other than next to the bed or couch after turning off to prevent any temptation.

Get up and get out:  Taking a brisk walk can definitely help in clearing your mind (and is great exercise to boot...)  If you don't feel like walking, bring along a book, some music or your favorite hobby. Being surrounded by nature and people can do wonders. Bonus Tip:  Invite someone.  Wear comfortable clothing and sneakers.  Bring a blanket and lie under a tree.

Enroll in a class:  Aerobics, yoga, art, dance, cooking...you name it, there's a class for it.  Signing up for one that meets weekly is a good start.  Bonus Tip:  Joining with a loved one (friend, family member, significant other) can help in keeping you motivated.

Clean:  This may seem counter-intuitive because the point here is to get out, however, I truly believe that an organized space = organized mind.  Trust me when I say that when my surroundings are messy, my life is usually out of wack.  Make afternoon/evening plans to prevent any dawdling.  Bonus Tip:  Try putting on happy tunes instead of the television to avoid distractions. 

Contact someone:  Forget e-mail, text, or instant messaging - call someone that you trust to hash it out (meet in person if you can...) Chances are that you have more on your mind that you originally thought.  Bonus Tip:  Please note that I'm no psychologist or medical professional of any kind.  If you are stuck in a rut for more than a day or two, it might be more than just exhaustion or a small case of the blues.  Serious emotional issues can be helped.  Talk to a professional if you truly feel like you're losing control of your emotions and it's negatively impacting your life.

What I DON'T do:  Shop, head to a local restaurant/bar (just temporary fixes), read self-help books or magazine articles (you'll constantly be in your head, long after you're done reading),   update a facebook/twitter status (you will dwell on it all day - especially if people comment!), watch movies (staying inside for hours on end is a definite no-no)...basically anything that will keep me down 'n out!

Whatever the reason, getting unstuck can be a pretty difficult task.  In my experience, keeping yourself busy on a regular basis can help prevent getting into a consistent rut.  On the flip side, remember to take time out when life seems a bit overwhelming...just be sure to find the right solution for your own happiness.

xoxo andrea

Yep, I Made It: Oven-Roasted Veggie Wraps!

Tuesday Greetings!

By the end of the week, I'm usually so beat that my first instinct is to head over to a local restaurant or order take-out.  Alas, my resolve to improve my eating habits has motivated me to come up with healthy meal ideas that take almost no time to prepare.  Enter: the Oven-Roasted Veggie Wrap!

In my opinion, oven-roasted veggies are by far the quickest way to feel like you've just eaten a five-course meal.  Just wash, cut, season and roast, then add to warmed tortillas or rice.  (Veggie lovers like my mama can eat them plain!)  Also, if you're watching your salt intake, keep in mind that seasoning is very much an option here - I barely used any salt and pepper.

What I really like about this meal is that you can use as many veggies as you want AND you can experiment with different types if you hate monotony in your food (like I do!)  You can even roast fruits!  E-gads!

In the below recipe, I've added tofu for protein purposes.  If you aren't a fan of pure veggies, feel free to add lean meats.

And awayyy we go!

Oven-Roasted Veggie Wraps

What You'll Need:

• 2-3 bell peppers (try to mix colors - I used red, green and yellow)
• 2-3 small yellow squash
• 2-3 small zucchini
• 2-3 large portobello mushrooms
• 1 package of firm or extra firm tofu, drained
• 1-2 tbsp. soy or Worcestershire sauce
• 1/2 tbsp. fresh ginger, grated
• 1 avocado
• 1 cup baby spinach (or lettuce of your choice)
• 4 medium whole wheat tortillas
• Olive oil 
• Salsa (italian or honey mustard dressing works too!)
• Salt and pepper to taste

What You'll Do:

1.  Pre-heat oven to 450ºF.

2.  Wash and cut bell peppers, yellow squash and zucchini.  I like them in 1/4 pieces just so they're bite-sized! 

3.  Wash and simply slice mushrooms.

4.   Using a brush, lightly coat a large baking sheet or roasting pan (about 15" x  12") with olive oil.

5.  Put veggies in a bowl and lightly season with salt and pepper.  Lightly drizzle olive oil (remember, your pan is already greased!)  Mix until coated. 

6.  Place veggies on your baking sheet/roasting pan and put in the oven for about 5-7 minutes on each side.  Make sure there is room between vegetables so they can cook evenly.  Check on them often!  Each veggie takes its own time!  =)

7.  Drain tofu and place on paper towels to absorb excess water.  Slice and coat with soy or Worcestershire sauce.  Add ginger.   Mix and let it marinate for about 10 minutes.

8.  When veggies are done, place tofu on baking sheet/roasting pan for about 5-7 minutes on each side. 

9.  While the tofu is roasting, wash baby spinach/lettuce and slice avocado.

10.  When the tofu is crisp on both sides, it's done! Turn off your oven, remove baking sheet/roasting pan and warm tortillas on another foil-lined baking sheet.  Your oven should be super hot, so it'll only take about a minute!

11.  Assemble!  Place all ingredients in your wrap.  Add salsa, italian or honey mustard dressing, and then....you're ready to eat!

Other veggies to try:  sweet potatoes, eggplant, red onions, asparagus...roasted fruits like apples and peaches will add some sweetness!  Enjoy!

xoxo andrea

If You Don't Know...

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Happy Monday!

In this edition of If You Don't Know, here are two links that really had an impact on me this week.  I hope you find solace in them as much as I did:

• I think that as we get older, life tends to challenge our belief in the actual good in people.  Here, 21 Photos That Will Restore Your Faith In Humanity.  (Above, a 17-year-old runner helps her injured competitor...)

• Related, if you've been jaded: 10 Photos That Will Restore Your Faith In (True, Everlasting) Love. (I was floored at #10....)

Have a great week just knowing that people have the potential to be absolutely amazing!

xoxo andrea

Note To Self...

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"Being tender and open is beautiful. As a woman, I feel continually shhh’ed. Too sensitive. Too mushy. Too wishy washy. Blah blah. Don’t let someone steal your tenderness. Don’t allow the coldness and fear of others to tarnish your perfectly vulnerable beating heart. Nothing is more powerful than allowing yourself to truly be affected by things. Whether it’s a song, a stranger, a mountain, a rain drop, a tea kettle, an article, a sentence, a footstep, feel it all – look around you. All of this is for you..."

 - Zooey Deschanel

The Happy List

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July went by slowlyyyy, but August is moving right along!  Here are a few items that helped me happily ring it in this week:

• Above, Monday was my 3 year Blogiversary!  =)  Like the many bloggers out there, this forum has definitely been a catalyst in reigniting my love for writing.  And I appreciate the fact that I get to share it with you!  It all started right here.

•  The New Girl!  Zooey Deschanel and the rest o' her gang on the cast is amazing in this modern take on Three's Company (except it's Four's Company =)  I'm very addicted!

• I did make that Eggplant Panini with Pesto!  Both the fam and bf loved it!  Score!

• Stuck to my workout routine.  Sore.  As.  Heck. But. Feelin'.  Good!

• Found my beloved Jason Mraz Tee.

• Cucumbers + Apples + Pears + Juicer = Deliciousness! 

• Finally, singing along to this (very loudly)  while driving with the windows wayyy down...

 'Hope this weekend's a grand one!

xoxo andrea

Bring It On, Sleep!

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Your mind is racing, you're tossing and turning - you know you're in for another sleepless night.  Insomnia has reared its ugly head and you don't know what you can do to finally get some well-deserved zzz's.  

I'll be the first to admit that I am a true insomniac (just take a look-see at the published times for this and some of my other blog posts!)  But there are a few things that I can certainly avoid in order to get a good night's rest...especially some of these senseless rituals that I tend to perform right before I'm supposed to be sound asleep:

1.  Above, drinking any sort of caffeinated beverage.  Coffee, soda, Red Bull, 5-Hour Energy - you get the point.  I mean, duh.  (Drinking lots of water right before bed isn't too smart, either.)

2.  Watching any part of a series on television.  For some reason, the best of the worst is on television after midnight - in bulk.  You name it, if I start watching one episode and there's 10 more, I feel like I must stay tuned to see what happens next.  (Enter all guilty pleasure shows here...)

3.  Doing my nails - nail art if I feel extra energetic.  Looks great(!) until I finally do decide to sleep - and the position of choice is as though I'm in some sort of casket.  This is so I avoid smudged nails in the morning (which happens anyway....)

4.  Playing any video/online/app game.  Bejeweled, Words With Friends, Draw Something, Mario Kart, Scrabble...not a good idea when you're trying to sleep.  Especially if your opponent gets a notification at 4AM.  Whoops.

5.  Listening to any sort of music you can sing along to.  Wilson Phillips, Beyonce, Journey...I need to take these off of my "I NEED TO SLEEP" playlist.

6.  Turning the A/C to an almost freezing temperature.  Unless you're armed with a down comforter, hat, gloves or scarf, you will be forced to turn this off in the middle of the night.  If you are in the 21st century and have a remote, congratulations!  For the rest of us, hellooo stubbed toe.

7.  Logging onto Facebook.  'Nuff said.

8.  Piggybacking on #7, surfing the Internet, period.  I can't begin to tell you how many hours I've wracked up researching random topics such as hairstyles, current events, shoes, celebrities, etc.  (You've probably noticed that I use the term "researching" quite loosely here...)

9.  Laundry.  I always forget to factor in drying time.  Double duh.

10.  Blogging.  =)

Here's to a good night's sleep!

xoxo andrea

Yep, I Made It: Ch-Ch-Chicken Meatballs!

Hello!

I always find myself wracking my brain when trying to come up with a versatile meal idea, where I have the option of freezing so it can be just as good if used within a week.  Then...meatballs came to mind!

Meatballs are super easy to make - just mix, shape and cook.  They're also pretty simple to adjust just so they are a wee bit healthier. 

In the recipe below, I've replaced beef with chicken, italian bread crumbs with whole wheat, and opted to bake instead of fry:

What You'll Need

• 1 lb. ground chicken
• 1 egg
• 1/4 cup yellow onion, minced
• 2-3 cloves of garlic, minced
• 1/2 cup parmesan cheese* (optional)
• 1/2 cup whole wheat bread crumbs (increase to 1 cup if eliminating parm cheese)
• 2 tsp. fresh** oregano (You can go with dried, but fresh herbs make a huge difference in this recipe!)
• 2 tsp. fresh thyme
• 2 tsp. fresh parsley
• 1/2 tsp. sea salt
• 1/2 tsp. black pepper
• 2 tsp. Worcestershire sauce
• 2 tbsp. olive oil

What You'll Do

1. Pre-heat oven to 400ºF.
2. Place chicken, egg, yellow onion and garlic in a medium bowl.  Knead until combined.
3. In a separate bowl, mix parm cheese, bread crumbs, thyme, parsley, sea salt and black pepper.  Add to meat mixture.  Knead until combined.
4. Add Worcestershire sauce and olive oil.  Guess what?  Knead until combined. =)
5. Line a 9 x 12 cookie sheet with parchment paper or lightly grease. 
6. Form meatballs to desired size and place on cookie sheet.  Keep them about 1/2 inch apart so that they can cook evenly.
7. Place in oven and bake for about 15-20 minutes. And....

Voila!  Meatballs that you can use in spaghetti sauce tonight, then freeze and use next week in meatball parm heroes!  (Make sure they're cooled before placing them in a freezer-safe zip-lock bag or container...)

Meatballs in spaghetti sauce with thin spaghetti and a just a little mozzarella cheese =)

(all photos by a. singh)

Enjoy!

xoxo andrea

If You Don't Know...

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"I've missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed."

- Michael Jordan

My whirlwind weekend has left me very, very exhausted!  But not without this week's crop of fave Internet finds!  

Enjoy!

•  Above, in honor of the 2012 Summer Olympics, a some fantastic inspirational quotes from past Olympic champs

•  So fun!  Advice about love via The Golden Girls (the original Sex and the City!)

• I'm on a cooking kick!  This week I think I'll try this Eggplant Panini with Pesto

• Three daily habits that help you to stay optimistic

•  Learn the art of breaking your sedentary lifestyle

• Finally, I never thought that this humor piece about embarrassing moments would take me through such a rollercoaster of emotions!  (a worthwhile read for sure!) 

Have a great week!

xoxo andrea

The Happy List

Wow!  I can't believe it's Friday already!  It's a busy weekend ahead for yours truly!

To kick it off:  a look-see at a few items that made me smile this week!  =)

• Above, watching Elvis with my mom.  Man, was he dreamy!  (and talented!)  (Click on the link here if you can't catch the  embedded YouTube vid....)

• Comic-inspired home accessories!  (The pillow cases are my fave!)

• Having a great, great time at my future sister-in-law's bridal shower!  (WOAH. A sister-in-law?!? =)

• A fellow blogger's beautiful tribute to a teacher who changed her life - by giving her a "D"

•  Laughing at Office Space with the bf (never realized how many celebs in this flick!)

•  Lastly, choosing home-cooked over take-out.  Somebody's growin' up!  =)

Happy Weekend!!!

xoxo andrea

Note To Self...

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“...I think happiness is what makes you pretty. Happy people are beautiful..."

- Drew Barrymore

The Do's and Don'ts of Getting Over a Grudge

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Oh, I know it's not easy.  Someone has made you really angry by saying/doing something offensive, and/or worse, violated your trust.  Depending on how severe the circumstances, a grudge can last for days, months, years, and in some cases, you feel like you can never forgive the other person or people involved.

In my experience, getting over a grudge can be a painful process, especially when you care about the relationship, but feel like you shouldn't bury the hatchet.  I mean, why?  He cheated, she is the "friend" that never calls, they are the ones that didn't care to invite you.  You may not realize it during the angry stage, but the energy that you are wasting worrying or avoiding these people in your life can be plain ol' draining - both physically and mentally.  Here are a few Do's and Don'ts of getting over a grudge that I've learned (and I'm still learning!) the hard way:

• DO know that it's okay to distance yourself from the person/people involved:  I am known to want closure in every disagreement, but I've realized that sometimes it's best to avoid contact for a day or two - longer for serious conflicts.  Depending on the situation, you may want to briefly tell all involved that you are upset and the reason why.  Let them know that you'll contact them when you're ready to talk. If they're not ready when you are, work on accepting that and move on - real relationships heal.

• DON'T vent to mutual people in your life: You may think that since a mutual person knows the both of you (and probably the situation), they can help.  In some cases, this is very far from the truth!  Telling someone that you both know can put them in an awkward situation, and you risk a re-hashing of a misinterpreted version of your side.  Try talking to a trusted someone that can truly listen objectively.

•  DO get some clarity:  Ask yourself about the real reason behind your frustrations.  Is it the situation at hand or is it a build-up of other issues that you let slide in the past?  Either way, you need to clarify that reason for both yourself and the person involved.  I happen to find clarity when journaling, walking, cooking/baking or listening to music.  If you haven't already, try to find a hobby that helps you relax.

• DON'T put anything on social media:  When you're angry, avoid social media outlets at all costs.  Do not take this as an opportunity to send a hurtful e-mail/text, or post a passive message on Facebook, Twitter, etc.  Remember: the Internet is a public forum that tends to make messy situations even messier. Not only are you are inviting the world (and their opinions) to invest in your problems, but it will come back to haunt you when it's resolved sooner or later.

• DO have a one-on-one talk - when you're ready: Relationships that matter deserve a sit-down, face-to-face conversation.  Talking about how you feel via e-mail, instant message or text leaves the door open for delayed/unreceived messages, inconvenient contact times, etc., which can lead to misinterpretation and additional frustration.  When you are both ready, schedule some real time on a day when you have no prior commitments, in a public area where you can speak honestly - in a mature, rational manner. 

• DON'T be quick to point the finger:  Conflict usually occurs when one person doesn't understand the other person's behavior.  Be open to the possibility that you may also be at fault here.  Find out how you could have approached the situation differently and prepare to apologize.

• DO listen - I repeat:  LISTEN.  It's pretty easy to dismiss what the other person is saying when you feel like you've been slighted in some way or if it's problem that seems to be on repeat.  Avoid sarcasm, derisive laughter, cursing, eye rolls, etc. - it doesn't help the situation.  Really listen as if you were the one trying to explain your side of things.

• DON'T interrupt:  Before you get into the conversation, make a pact that you will both speak without interruption (this means taking off and putting away your cell phone...)  It's only fair to hear each other out.

• DO know when it's time to throw in the towel:  Some situations are fixable, some are not.  Realize that people are different, and issues that are important to you may not be as important to someone else.  Also, forgiveness and/or seeing one's point of view can be a lifelong journey and you may never see eye-to-eye.  Understand when this is the case and try to let go in your own way.

When conflict arises, you may be a person who is constantly in your own head (like I am) or find it very easy to either hold onto or get over a grudge.  Whatever the case may be, one important realization in this process is knowing when to move on.  It isn't a simple task, but dwelling in negative situations only reaps negative energy.  To me, it's very necessary to release your demons, surround yourself with positivity and spend your energy with people that add value to your life...

xoxo andrea

Yep, I Made It: Salmon 'n Veggie Couscous

Here's a quick 'n easy recipe I whipped up for my mama last week...it took just about 15 minutes to make!  No joke!

FYI:  Couscous is coarsely ground pasta made from wheat.  Its consistency is similar to rice, as seen here:

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It's also affordable, cooks super duper fast and is deliciouso!

For the recipe below, I used canned salmon to ease the process, but you can also wash, marinate and bake/grill fresh salmon separately.  Ditto for fresh veggies!  (Keep in mind that it'll be a bit longer in terms of cooking time...) 


You'll probably notice that the salt content is drastically reduced here - I don't think there's a need to add extra salt when bouillon and salmon is involved...feel free to adjust to your liking!

Salmon 'n Veggie Couscous

What You'll Need:

• 1 1/2 cups plain couscous  (I used a brand called Near East)

• 2 3/4 cups water*

• 1 chicken bouillon cube*

• 1/2 tsp. butter or margarine**

• 1 tbsp. olive oil

• 2 cloves of garlic, diced

• 1/4 cup yellow onion, diced

• 1+ cup of veggies (fresh or frozen!  I like a snowpea- various peppers-broccoli-zucchini-type mix)

• 1  5 oz. can of skinless, boneless pink salmon, drained

• 1 tbsp. dried parsley 

• Salt and pepper to taste

*you can replace the water/bouillon with 2 3/4 cups chicken broth.
** an optional ingredient

What You'll Do:

1.  In a small pot, boil water and add bouillon cube.

2.  When the cube dissipates, add couscous and reduce to a simmer.

3.  Cover and cook for about 5 minutes.  (It's done once the water is absorbed and/or the 
     couscous is dry and fluffy...)  Optional:   Add butter and stir for a bit more flavor

4.  In a separate frying pan, heat oil (at medium heat) and add garlic and onion.

5.  When the onion is translucent, add your veggies.  Stir-fry for about 5-7 minutes.

6.  Add salmon and cook until both the salmon and veggies are hot. 

7.  Add the couscous and parsley. Mix all ingredients for about 5 minutes.

8.  Salt and pepper to taste.


All done!  You can use this as a side or serve as an entire meal if you add lots of veggies and salmon.  Feel free to substitute salmon with cooked, seasoned and diced boneless chicken. 


Enjoy!

If You Don't Know...

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"...This one's a fighter..." 

 - Gym Class Heroes 

Another week has begun and so here comes another list of favorito 'net finds!  Enjoy!

• Above:  Love this song by Gym Class Heroes (ft. Ryan Tedder) - The Fighter.

• I must, must, must get back into yoga.  Read about "off-the-mat" practices here.

• In a happiness rut?  Make the most out of your life right at home.

• Aghhh!  I'm guilty of 4 out of 5 of these bad habits!  (I can't deal with bland food...hahaha)

• It's the perfect time o' year for popsicles!  I'd probably nix the sugar and use a spot of agave.

• This DIY braided rug reminds me of my very creative (and practical) grandfather.

• Last, but definitely not least, wise words from Gabourey Sidibe about self-confidence.

Have a fantastic week, all!

xoxo andrea